The following is a translation of His Holiness Younus AlGohar's speech.
In spirituality, the Spiritual Guide maintains a stern tone when dealing with the seekers and it helps keep their Nafs (Self) really low and fearful. Currently, people have zero tolerance and they argue over everything. However, this behaviour is completely against spirituality. Those who argue have forgotten who they are addressing. I wanted to give spiritual knowledge in a friendly manner, but people did not value it. Sweet talk and leniency spoils the Nafs, whereas a stern tone keeps the Nafs humble.
Some disciples were sitting in the company of Junaid Baghdadi (a saint) when Abu Bakr Shibli (a disciple) came. The other disciples sitting there praised Abu Bakr Shibli and said, 'He is one of your perfect disciples (Kamil Mureed).' Junaid Baghdadi immediately sat Abu Bakr Shibli where the shoes of all other disciples were. He did this so the praise would not spoil the Nafs of Abu Bakr Shibli.
When His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi would stay in my home, HDE maintained such a stern tone. Two weeks would pass without even speaking to HDE whilst living in the same home. When I would go for mission activities, HDE Gohar Shahi would show no reaction and would not praise me. Once I made a request to HDE Gohar Shahi, 'May my entire life be spent in servitude to your mission.' The Lord replied, 'God will take as much work from you as he desires.' Upon hearing this, my Nafs felt low.
Because of my soft tone, love, brotherhood and respect, peoples’ Nafoos (Selves) became spoiled. If the one appointed to purify your Nafs has to respect and please your Nafs, how will your Nafs become purified? A few stern words from the Spiritual Guide sets off your mood and you stop coming to see him. This is not spirituality - nor do you understand spirituality.
The Nafs must first be hurt before it is purified. When the Nafs is hurt, it sits quietly and becomes discouraged. Then the Spiritual Guide adopts a cold attitude towards the seeker. Spirituality is not for those who have to be pleased every minute, for those who get upset over everything or for those whom the Spiritual Guide has to apologise to.
That is not spirituality! A Spiritual Guide will have to keep a very stern behaviour with the seeker and that will help them purify their Nafs. If my words are sweet and I have to respect you, then I can guarantee to you that you can never ever be able to purify your Nafs, no matter how many years you spend here in my company.
When people hear stern words, they become angry. Their tongues may be quiet, but I can hear the barking of their Nafs. When Divine Light (Noor) enters the heart, the heart becomes satisfied; this is very easy. But the Nafs must be satisfied in the stern tone of the Spiritual Guide. The Laws of spirituality are different. The Nafs is not simply purified through Divine Light; rather, many ingredients are necessary to complete this dish. A stern tone makes the Nafs feel low. As soon as the Nafs feels low, the Guide feeds the Nafs of the seekers with Divine Light and this is how the Nafs is cleansed.
If a baby insists on eating a kebab, the father tells the baby sternly to eat its own food. If the baby does not listen, the father forces the baby. The Nafs is the same way. If a strong Nafs is given the food of Divine Light, it does not accept it. But when a stern tone is used and the Nafs is scolded over petty things, the Nafs becomes weak and fearful. At this point, if Divine Light is given to the Nafs, it accepts it quietly because the Nafs is fearful of being humiliated in front of people. The Nafs fears humiliation.
Because of the stern tone of His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi, I often had the conjecture that I was a Munafiq (hypocrite). I understood at the end that the stern tone of HDE Gohar Shahi was a blessing through which the Nafs was kept low and purified; it was the means to shatter the ego. People do not understand spirituality. If they are spoken to in a stern tone, they get angry. They might not say anything with their tongue, but they are constantly grumbling and justifying themselves inside.
It is said in spirituality that when you sit in front of a scholar, control your tongue and when you sit in the company of Dervish, control your heart.
Hadith: Beware of the sight of a man of God, for he sees with the Light of God (Noor).
There were many reasons why I kept a soft tone with people after the Occultation of HDE Gohar Shahi. Those who intended to love HDE Gohar Shahi, I did not want to say anything to turn them away because I wanted to unite them. I thought the Nafs could be dealt with later on; but because of my soft tone over the last 12 years, people became accustomed to it.
If someone always speaks to you in a soft tone and then suddenly, one day his tone becomes stern, you won’t like it. If someone always speaks to you in a stern tone and once in 10 years he speaks to you in a soft tone, you would really like it. Adaptability is in the nature of the Nafs. If you do not make your Nafs accustomed to respect, then the Nafs becomes patient with being insulted.
If the Nafs is always insulted and suddenly someone gives it respect, the Nafs would have difficulty believing it. The Nafs would feel it is not worthy of respect. We did not keep a stern tone and therefore the Nafoos of people became argumentative and so impatient that if they are slightly scolded, they cry and beg for forgiveness. However, this is confined to their tongues only and the incentive behind this 99% of the time is to hush the matter so that they are not humiliated any further.
To control the anger of the Nafs inside after being scolded is a miracle in my eyes. Do you think that one who His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi has shown Riaz al Jannah (Kingdom of Lord Ra Riaz in the Unseen World) and one in whose heart knowledge is transferred from the heart of HDE Gohar Shahi without any medium or Gabriel - would he not be aware of the anger inside of you? Would he not be aware of the plans that are being made against him? The conspiracies that women make against me, am I not able to see them? Keeping quiet despite knowing all is great endurance. Shun this habit of arguing and you will reform your character - not only with your Spiritual Guide, but with everyone.
After spending time in the company of HDE Gohar Shahi, if anyone asks me to do anything, it doesn’t cross my mind who is saying it. I will do it for them. If in front of me you agree to do something, but because of your ego you refuse to do the same thing for anyone else when they ask you, then this is hypocrisy. By doing so, you are taking yourself away from the Lord. If you break somebody’s heart, your Nafs will become stronger and the Nafs will compel you to believe that you are not lesser than anybody else. However this attitude is not acceptable in spirituality - although it may be in this world. Those who bring a worldly approach into spirituality can never be successful.
People think they do not sin, so their character is pure. But, HDE Gohar Shahi has said, 'There are two types of devils. One is the real devil and the other is an imposter.' The imposter devil engages you in exoteric sins such as consuming alcohol, adultery, etc. and the real devil destroys your heart by engaging your heart in esoteric sins such as enmity, jealousy, greed and false pride.
Prophet Mohammad said, 'One who has even the slightest amount of false pride in his heart is not worthy of entering the paradise.'
Believe me: the pleasure in adopting humility is far greater than having false pride. If you say something full of arrogance, you will feel you have committed. If you adopt humility, you will feel as if you have done a good deed. Test it for yourself. If someone comes and insults you, keep quiet. There will be no mischief because it takes two to argue; if you keep quiet and do not react, the issue will die down. Then, a time will come when your Nafs will begin to pray for those who insult you. HDE Gohar Shahi is my witness: you begin to pray for them and feels sorry for their naivety, because your Nafs became more humble thanks to their stern behaviour. A soft tone will not work to purify the Nafs!
In 1995, the voice of HDE Gohar Shahi came out from my mouth unintentionally. I was very worried; it is impossible to imitate the voice of the Lord. I called HDE in
HDE repeated the same thing to me which had come from my mouth. From there on,
whenever a message or the voice of HDE Gohar Shahi came out from my mouth, I
would tell HDE. This was a very delicate matter which I was very careful about,
but it continued to happen and every time I would call the Lord. One day, HDE
said, 'Believe it; any message that comes from us is truthful. If you must
phone every time, then what is the use of my sub-spirits inside of you?' I felt
relieved to hear this. After Ghaibah (Occultation), whenever the voice of the
Lord would come out from my mouth, I would have an evil whisper whether it was
the truth or whether the devil was whispering in my ears. Then in 2006, I was
shocked when an envelope belonging to HDE Gohar Shahi was found in the home of
a follower of HDE in the United States of America. There were some papers in
the envelope that were written in HDE Gohar Shahi handwriting on a notepad from
the Galadari Hotel in Sri Lanka. The date written on those papers was the same
date during which I was staying in the Galadari Hotel. In those days, what I
spoke about in the internet gatherings was the same as what HDE Gohar Shahi had
written on the notepad, word for word. I was amazed to see the name of MFI (Mehdi
Foundation International) written by HDE Gohar Shahi’s hand. Kotri,
His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi said to me, 'I live in your heart, so you can never be misguided.' Upon hearing this, I became worried. Would the Lord only come into my heart to stop me from being misguided? I thought that if the Lord came into my heart, the Rapturous Love of the Lord would increase in my heart. HDE Gohar Shahi said, 'There comes a time when even a Dhakir-e-Qalbi (one whose heart has been initiated with the name of the Lord) is misguided. A times comes when even one whose seven Lataif (subtleties) are enlightened becomes misguided. There even comes a time when those in the process of becoming saints are misguided. But one who has obtained Divine Union (Wasal) is never misguided.' I said to HDE, 'One whose heart is initiated by the will of God, it means that God has given him guidance.' HDE replied, 'If God does not grant you guidance, what can you do? Is the initiation of the heart a guarantee that you cannot be misguided?'
The Quran states:
رَبَّنَا لَا تُزِغۡ قُلُوبَنَا بَعۡدَ إِذۡ هَدَيۡتَنَا وَهَبۡ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحۡمَةً
O' God, after granting guidance to our hearts, do not turn our hearts away from you.
Even if the heart is initiated or purified, there is no guarantee.
HDE said, 'A time will come when only those will be protected from misguidance who have Gohar in their hearts.'
I saw this practically at the time of Occultation. My heart was full of evil whispers. Even having an enlightened heart did not make me satisfied. Then I remembered the words of the Lord, 'I live in your heart, so you can never be misguided.' I was relieved and realised that this phrase from the Lord was for this time.
We have seen the sainthood of many saints taken back from them. If their sainthood can be cancelled, would they have any Emaan (faith) left? Those who possess Divine Light in their hearts can lose it by blaspheming a saint or a prophet. If someone keeps a grudge for the Representative of Imam Mehdi in his heart, would he still have any Divine Light in his heart?
The reason for the decline in the characters of people around us, day by day, is mentioned in the Hadith and in the Deen-e-Ilahi (Religion of God) also. God says, 'And I declare was against those who bear animosity towards my friends/saints.' God declares war against those who give pain to and blaspheme his saints and God’s declaration of war is not beheading or putting someone in jail. Rather, God’s wrath and curse fall upon those hearts and their Emaan is further destroyed with each passing day. The Divine Light is taken from their hearts and such people become more and more blasphemous; this is the Divine Law. You will see it in their character.
After Occultation, I repeated this phrase often: 'We do not have the power to save ourselves from misguidance. It is the Merciful Glance of HDE Gohar Shahi that has kept all of our Emaan alive.' This is the sheer truth. A human being is not capable at any stage to protect his Emaan because the one who has decided to guide or misguide a person is God. If God decides to misguide you, all your knowledge and sacrifices would be useless, all your Divine Light would be confiscated and you would be helpless.
You can remain on the path of guidance only when the Lord of the Lords is merciful upon you, the one who can convince God in your favour. Because you do not have the power to save yourselves, you must stay connected to the one who has obtained Divine Union.
The Quran says,
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ وَكُونُواْ مَعَ ٱلصَّـٰدِقِينَ
The spiritual status of a Sadiq (Truthful One) is greater than that of a Momin and this is why even the Quran has ordered a Momin to keep the company of a Sadiq.
Therefore, those who are connected to the Spiritual Guide do not go against his will. If the sun is out and the Spiritual Guide says it is night, then the seeker should believe that it is night. The best way to please the Guide is to be in obedience to him.
After Occultation, I said to people, 'HDE Gohar Shahi has given the guarantee for my guidance. Hence, if you do as I do, your guidance is guaranteed because one who has the sub-spirits of the Lord in him cannot go astray; the Lord resides within him.'