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Younus AlGohar divulges the four categories of human beings in the world and reveals never-before-heard information about himself and his spiritual journey under the auspicious supervision of His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi.
Summary:
- Prophet Mohammad obtained three types of knowledge: one for the common folks, one for the elite and one for just him.
- There are four categories of people in the world:
1. The People of the Ear, who enjoy listening to speeches and recitals of the Koran. They are satisfied by just listening to religious scholars and Qawwalists. Their enjoyment lies in listening.
2. The People of the Tongue. They are not satisfied with listening to speeches and Naats alone. For them, God has appointed Kamil Shariat guides who teach them how to recite Wazifas. This is what they enjoy doing.
3. The People of the Heart. They do not find joy in listening to lectures to engaging in the verbal recitation of Wazifas. For them, pleasure lies in God's name resounding within the chambers of the heart. The Kamil Tariqat Spiritual Guides engage their hearts in God's remembrance.
4. The People of the Sight. They are not satisfied with listening to lectures, recitations or even the invocation of God's name in the heart. Rather, their enjoyment lies in coming face-to-face with God. For such people, God has appointed the saints at the stages of Fana, Liqa and Billah who grant them the knowledge of witnessing the divine splendour.
- One becomes accustomed to spiritual pleasure. That is when you need something more. Sayyidi Younus AlGohar explains that when he first met His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi, he felt immense spiritual pleasure with the revival of the Spiritual Heart and invocation of God's name within. Then one day, HDE Gohar Shahi granted Sayyidi the invocation of the soul and the pleasure changed again. After that, there came a time when each of the subtleties was jumping and engaged in their respective invocations. Sayyidi felt spiritual pleasure in this too, but eventually, the pleasure dulled. Then HDE Gohar Shahi took Sayyidi to the court of Prophet Mohammad, then the gatherings of Prophet Mohammad in the Realm of Angels, then Haqiqat-e-Mohammadi which is situated right in front of the Realm of God's Oneness. Then, HDE Gohar Shahi took Sayyidi to the Realm of God's Throne.
- In the Realm of God's Throne, Sayyidi spent some time at the Point of Oneness (Nuqta-e-Toheed) which relates to Faqr (Spiritual Poverty). He enjoyed it for some time but eventually wanted to progress further. That is when he went to the Point of Rapturous Love (Nuqta-e-Ishq); the spiritual pleasure from that station continues to this day; however, he grew used to this as well. After this, HDE Gohar Shahi embraced Sayyidi Younus AlGohar and performed Spiritual Infusion (Zam) on him.
- Initially, there was a lot of charm and glamour to the Spiritual Infusion; Sayyidi would look at his hands and see them turn into His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi's before his very eyes. He would see his nose or lips transform into HDE Gohar Shahi's. He would hear his voice changing into HDE Gohar Shahi's voice. He would listen to people but only hear HDE Gohar Shahi's voice. There was a lot of spiritual pleasure in this Spiritual Infusion but eventually, he became accustomed to this as well. Then HDE Gohar Shahi performed another Spiritual Infusion upon Sayyidi Younus AlGohar. In the first grade of Spiritual Infusion, HDE Gohar Shahi performed 7 Spiritual Infusions upon Sayyidi to transform his senses, Lower Self and sight. The next level of Spiritual Infusion was Zam bil Zameer which changed Sayyidi's esoteric appearance. The journey through Spiritual Infusion is on-going to date; each level brings with it its own spiritual pleasure which Sayyidi eventually grows used to. He then progresses on to the next level of Spiritual Infusion.
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Younus AlGohar explains what God meant in Koran 33:72 when he said that man can absorb the Personal Name of God.
Summary:
- In the verse, God said that if he had wanted to reveal his Personal Name upon the skies and Earth, it would be wasted. This is because the usage of the Personal Name of God is that of a key which enables one to understand God.
- God said that man was so full of darkness and negative energy that he was able to absorb the Personal Name of God. In other words, the Personal Name of God was useful in eliminating the darkness and negative energy from human beings and enlightening them. And God began to reflect within those human beings.
- There is no darkness or esoteric veils upon the mountains or other elements of nature. Therefore, there would be no use for revealing the Personal Name of God upon them.
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Younus AlGohar's step-by-step method of obtaining Opening of the Spiritual Heart.
Main Points:
- Human beings do not have the power to obtain Opening of the Spiritual Heart by themselves, it is granted with the permission of God. God's name will enter your Spiritual Heart only when God wishes it to happen.
- In order to find out if you have God's permission, you must go to a Perfect Spiritual Guide who will take your appearance to God and ask him to befriend you. If God does not want to befriend you, you will be rejected and there is nothing the Spiritual Guide can do to convince God otherwise.
- If God wishes to befriend you but he is hesitant in case you falter and run away, then the Spiritual Guide steps up as your Guarantor. The Spiritual Guide must assess your character; whether or not you are persistent during hard times.
- The Spiritual Guide attaches a couple of Divine Creatures to your Spiritual Heart which make sure you do not turn away and they do not leave until God's name is settled within.
Younus AlGohar gives an in-depth explanation of the Spiritual Anatomy of human beings. This explanation reveals how the reality of mankind is not confined to the body; it is much more.
Main Points:
- There are a total of 7 Lataif (Subtleties) in the human body. 5 Lataif are located in the chest and they are connected to the 5 Grand Messengers. Each Grand Messenger was given the knowledge of the corresponding Lataif. Adam - Qalb (Spiritual Heart); Abraham - Rouh (Human Soul); Moses - Sirri (Secret); Jesus Christ - Khafi (Obscure; Prophet Mohammad - Akhfah (Arcane).
- The knowledge of the subtleties (spirituality) was reserved for the elite followers of each Grand Messenger. The common people were given the religious law which consisted of worship, rights of mankind, marital laws etc.
- Hazrat Ali's statement about 40 Parts of Koran is referred to the knowledge of the subtleties. The 30 Parts of Koran are the physical Koran and the remaining 10 Parts are a combination of the Grand Messengers' knowledge. Each Grand Messenger split the knowledge of their respective subtlety into two: one half for themselves and the other half for the saints.
- The 6th Subtletly is the Carnal Self and it is a commandment of God to purify it. The Carnal Self is located at the navel point of human beings. It is the reason for mischief and evil in the world. However, once it becomes purified, it inclines you towards goodness.
- The final subtlety is Ana. It is located in the head. The Ana has nothing to do with prophethood or knowledge of the 5 subtleties in the chest. It has to do with Seeing God. God granted the knowledge of Ana as a personal gift to Prophet Mohammad. It is not a part of Islam. Prophet Mohammad can grant the knowledge of Ana to whomsoever he desires. However, His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi has now rendered this Esoteric Knowledge to the entire humanity, elite and common alike.
The objective of studying emotional intelligence is to obtain the ability to acquire control over the emotions.
Sometimes, the pain we feel is so much that we are emotionally overwhelmed. Sometimes we are able to control our overwhelming emotions. Other times, we give into the flow and that is when we suffer the most. In such a situation, we should not let go of ourselves; we should be able to control our emotions.
Perhaps this is what patience is. Some people mix patience with forbearance, but the ability to control your emotions is patience. There is a significant difference between patience and forbearance. Forbearance is for physical pain and suffering, whereas patience is to do with the ability to control your emotions - to put your foot down and not let go of yourself.
Controlling emotions is very close in meaning to a Sufi term known as ‘Zarf’, which means great endurance.
Endurance is like durability. For example, there are different kinds of suitcases on the market: Atelier, American Tourister, Samsonite, Delsey, Tommy, Rivera and Rimowa. They are made with different fibres, materials and matter. The most durable material will be sold at the most expensive price. How do we assess the durability? Durability is assessed by applying pressure and power to see how much the material can endure. Some materials that they make suitcases with will break easily while some others are really durable.
If it is a material and it is not easy to break, it is called durability. If it is a human being who can take any amount of pressure, doesn’t crack under pressure and survives, that is called endurance. Durability and endurance are brother and sister, so to speak.
Are Your Prayers Being Answered?
Emotions, when they are overwhelmingly excessive, behave like alcohol.
Some people are so affected by their emotions that if you check their pulse and blood pressure when they are emotionally charged up, the reading will be the same as if they were drunk. Any news - whether it is extremely good or extremely bad - will run shockwaves through their bodies.
Especially in Pakistan, when people go to apply for a visa to a western country, their hearts run like horses. Even if they don’t believe in God, at that moment in time God is very much in demand; he serves as an agent. To some people, the religious stuff works miracles. This is all cogitation. Whether or not God helps you, you have this imagination to hold onto when you believe in God.
We human beings are so ‘good’, we pray to God when we are in adversity. We call upon God when in need. There is a momentary soothing effect when you pray to God, even though you know, deep down in your heart, that God isn’t going to answer. It is just a mind game.
A prayer has a very soothing effect. This is why intelligent people suffer more because they don’t believe in God.
How many people are religious? The majority of people who practise a religion are not from well-to-do families and not opulent. They are those who have to go to the worship places to pray to God for a loaf of bread. Obviously, they will get a loaf of bread from here or there. Someone will come and even if he doesn’t believe in God, he will feel pity for them and give them a loaf of bread. Then the [religious man] will say, ‘Oh look, God heard my prayers. I was hungry; somebody came and fed me.’
This is the pattern of our behaviour. You will never appreciate the efforts of the person who helped you, but thankfulness from you will go to God. Human beings will do us a favour but we will never appreciate their favour. Instead of saying ‘Thank you,’ to the people who help us, we will say, ‘God, you have been so nice to me,’ and God does not know a thing about what is going on.
These religious people, at the time of adversity, find their solace in prayers and worship. However, when they are happy, how will they control their emotions now? When religious people are happy, they forget God. They only remember him at the time of need.
At the time of adversity, you can control your emotions through prayer, meditation, yoga and various different things. However, some people take the world by storm when they are happy. The way they behave when they’re extraordinarily happy, it is like they’re drunk. They lose their intelligence.
Step 2- Making Use of Emotions
Emotional intelligence is the ability to control and make use of your emotions. Controlling emotions is understandable, but what is making use of emotions?
When some people are emotionally charged up, you can convince them to give you donations. When they are not emotionally charged up, you tell them a thousand stories related to God, but they will never give you any donations. It is really bad to take advantage of somebody’s emotional state, however, as long as you are not ripping their pockets off and convincing them to contribute to a good cause, it is okay. When they are emotionally charged up, their emotions will make them do it. This is perhaps where the proverb comes from, ‘strike while the iron is still hot.’
In the moment when somebody is emotionally charged up and you give him His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi’s message of love, those emotions will help him understand your mission and message.
When I was in Pakistan, I had a friend and I would tell him about HDE Gohar Shahi every day. He would always turn a deaf ear on me. But then one day, when his father died, we went to the graveyard for the burial. He buried his father and we were sitting there. He was telling me, ‘Everyone has to die one day.’ Then, I told him about HDE Gohar Shahi. I was really shocked: he was listening to me very carefully. I thought he was just winding me up and maybe in another minute he would stand up and say, ‘Look, I made a fool out of you.’ But no, we spent a good one hour there. He was crying and telling me, ‘You’re right.’ Then we went to HDE Gohar Shahi and he was granted Opening of the Spiritual Heart.
I always wondered why he never understood the message before, but after his father died, it was like he was waiting for it. The difference was, when his father died and he was in the graveyard, he was overwhelmed with emotions. You need to see which emotion goes with what message.
God, somehow or other, is attached with suffering, starvation and a sense of deprivation. When you are in the spiritual and emotional vicinity of pain and suffering, then comes the message of God. People are looking for solace and comfort. Nothing is more comforting than something that can secure your future, especially if you are standing in a graveyard.
Now at this stage, controlling your emotions is Step 1. Step 2 is the ability to make use of those emotions. Some people who are evil will obviously make a bad use of your emotions.
You have to guard your emotions like you guard your virginity. Anybody can come and tell you a story; you shouldn’t expose your emotions to people.
You cannot take advantage of somebody’s emotions. You only use it for a good purpose. Making use of emotions is only allowed for the other person’s goodness, not your own goodness. But cunning people do the opposite. When they see somebody is emotional, they will come and sell them a story, fill their own pockets and run away. This is why emotional intelligence is very important in life.
We have discussed emotional intelligence and also the awareness of emotional intelligence so that If somebody is in an emotional state, we can respect their emotions and then how to help them control their emotions.
Some people are very vulnerable and when they are overwhelmed with emotions, they cannot control their emotions. But what are friends for? If you have a friend who is going through such an emotional crisis phase in his life, it is your moral obligation to go and fix his emotional problems and help him control his emotions. Maybe they don’t know how to control their emotions; they may get carried away in those emotions and cause great harm. If they cannot control their emotions, as a friend, you should be volunteering yourself in controlling their emotions and making sure nobody makes use of their emotions.
When you are angry, in the heat of the moment, you say silly things that you don’t mean. Similarly, when you are in an emotional state, the world looks different, everything looks different. In normal life, you will see that there are many hurdles but when you are emotionally charged up, you will see no boundaries. You think you can do anything.
Intelligence does not work when you are emotionally charged up. I personally believe that you have to be more emotionally intelligent than this mental intelligence. Emotions are so powerful; they supersede all your intellect. Emotions can screw up your intellect any time and make your head empty of intellect.
If you have £100 and you see people are starving and suffering, you’ll give it all away in an emotional state. When you come back home, you will only blame yourself. You will say, ‘Why did I do that?’ If you do this in spirituality, it is not allowed. What is not allowed in spirituality? That you were emotionally overwhelmed and saw somebody starving and in need, you gave him or her all your money and when you came home, you now regret it.
It is not allowed in spirituality to do a good thing and regret it later on.
You should measure your goodness and charity and always keep emotional and intellectual intelligence intact.
‘I think I should give him £20, and then I will be left with £30. I can easily manage one week with £30.’ Now you will not regret it. But if you donate £100 and you only had £100, then that was a one-off charity. You will never do that charity again in your life.
Sometimes, emotions can really misguide you. Emotions should be intact with intellectualism. If the intellect is separated from emotions, you are in trouble.
My father used to say, ‘Do not be too sweet or people will swallow you. Do not be too bitter or people will spit you out [Urdu Proverb].’ We have to stay in the middle.
Every human being should be emotionally intelligent and you will only do certain things when you are emotionally intelligent.
Spirituality is fundamentally the original knowledge of human beings; their existence, their functions and their beings. Senses, which are numbered as five in total, are related to the five souls in the human breast. It makes it really easy to understand that due to the fact that these five souls are enclosed in our bosoms, we have emotions and other senses. Animals do not have these senses.
The most common functions of the souls which are open to all souls, like emotions and empathy; sometimes, human beings who do not get to enlighten their souls have problems [with these functions]. They lose some of the senses because the souls are badly damaged or diseased with some evil ailments. Some people stop having empathy and sympathy for others; they stop feeling the pain of others. We know them as self-centred people.
What exactly happens when somebody has all the feelings of his or her pain but does not feel the pain of others? This is due to the fact that the souls responsible for upholding the sensory system of five senses are diseased and are now malfunctioning.
You must have seen people who may be easily regarded as stone-hearted or hard-hearted. You must have seen such people in your vicinity - at work, school and religious places. Something goes severely wrong when the souls inside the human chest go wrong. Malfunctioning of these souls result in having no empathy; people suffering from malfunctioning souls do not sympathise with anyone. They become egocentric, stone-hearted and blind to any compassion. These things can only be understood with the help of spirituality because they are to do with spirituality.
It is not the body which has the outburst of emotions. Emotions are a very spiritual, abstract thing. You don't see them, but you can feel them.
We live in a very strange world; when somebody has emotions, we say, ‘This person is too emotional.’ Intelligence is part of emotional intelligence. If you don’t have emotions, you are an animal. Animals don’t have emotion because they don't have the five souls in the breast. If you are a human being and still you don't have emotions, it means your souls are severely diseased.
Emotional Intelligence
Most of the time, many people who are not spiritual are only concerned about their own emotions. They don't care about others’ emotions. Whether it is their friends, spouse, father, brother or sister, they are not bothered.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. The mismanagement of emotions is extremely dangerous.
For example, if you spill a glass of water by mistake, you would forgive yourself without hesitation. You will not even say, ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me.’ I don’t have to say it. However, if somebody else does it, you would say, ‘Oh my god, look at them!’ Things will go out of proportion. This is because, emotionally, you are not intelligent. You have problems with identifying the emotions and managing them. When you were able to remain quiet when you spilt water because you knew that you did it, why couldn’t you control your emotions when somebody else did it?
For example, some people, when their toddlers are crying, they give them chocolate. They know that it is not good for them, but they give it to them just because they want some peace. If somebody else was doing it, the same people would erupt in an outburst of emotions.
In the management of emotional intelligence, the first skill you must master is emotional awareness.
‘Emotional awareness is the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem-solving. It is the ability to manage your emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.’
For example, let’s say somebody does something wrong and by looking at his face, you see that he is full of emotions. He is so sorry; however, you don't read it. You say, ‘He didn’t even say sorry.’ Look at his face! You are so blind and cannot read emotions of others. So, you are not emotionally aware.
If somebody’s face is all swollen, their eyes are red, they look sombre, gloomy and distressed - and still, you can’t read it, it means you lack awareness of emotions.
When somebody does something wrong, sometimes I make jokes with them. I learnt it from His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi. His Divine Eminence said, ‘When somebody does something wrong, give him more love so that he can correct himself.’
When you are happy, your body is so transparent, it cannot hide your emotions. Your face is so transparent it is like a revealing, see-through dress. The emotions are peeking out. When you are happy, your face is [bright]. When you are sad, your face will seem to have some swelling. When you are angry, your nostrils flare.
Emotions do not need a language. Emotions don’t need your permission. They will manifest before the world. They are self-expressive; they do not need extra help.
When there is an outburst of emotions, the emotions will manifest upon your face. The face will go to the backstage and emotions will come to the forefront.
When somebody does a favour to you and now it is your turn to be thankful to them, some people think by saying, ‘Thank you,’ they have done their job. You don't see the emotions of gratefulness upon their faces. This is because they are emotionally dead. Some other people say, ‘Thank you,’ but with the emotions of hatred.
Appreciation is an exhibition of emotions, my friend. Appreciation doesn’t consist of words only.
In a similar way, when you are grateful to God, you say, ‘Thank God.’ When you are thankful to somebody, you need to express your emotions. That exhibition of emotions is the true form of appreciation. When somebody is doing a favour to you, it is natural to exhibit some emotions of gratefulness. Gratitude is not just two words, ‘thank you’.
In order to become a good human being, you must be emotionally intelligent.
Have you been in a situation where you see that some people are really disturbed and quiet, while others in the room are not bothered about their emotional state and are laughing and making jokes? I think this is a mark of a bad character.
When we see that somebody is upset, for any reason, we should respect his emotional attire, condition and the situation he may be in. We should give him space.
We should not make an environment where somebody feels, ‘Nobody is bothered. They are spiritually so dead, they cannot see my face. They cannot even see how sad I am and they’re just making jokes.’ This is also very important.
If we must [be jubilant, we should leave his presence first]. We can comfort him and say, ‘Everything will be okay, don't worry.’ Words of comfort don't mean anything, but it comes under mannerism.
Taking Criticism
Some people criticise you for the sake of criticism. Not a lot of people criticise you to reform you. Some people just try to boast themselves and put allegations on others. That is not true criticism.
If it is true criticism, you must reflect on your actions and deeds.
Then again, in the very first instance, you need to know whether the criticism is positive and coming from a fair-minded person, who doesn't hold a grudge against you and who is not a habitual nagger. Some people just use everything as an instrumental to disrespect, insult you and find flaws with you. Even if there are no flaws in you, they must find a flaw with you. They become oblivious about their own being; they are totally oblivious to who they are and how good or bad they are.
You must know when you are criticised, whether or not that criticism is positive. On the other hand, do not make this as an excuse [not to listen to the criticism] at the same time. Sometimes, you say, ‘I don’t care because it is not a positive criticism; let them say what they want,’ because you need an exit without guilt. You have to be pretty sure whether or not that person is a genuine critic. If that person is a genuine critic, then you must hear him out.
It is like a blessing if you have a positive critic around you. Then, in that case, you don’t have to work hard on correcting yourself. They will criticise you positively, then you will take note of what they are saying about you and you can correct yourself. A positive critic is the best of your mates.
Most of the time, we think our parents are positive critics, but sometimes they are overprotective. They are just exaggerating it most of the time. Then they say, ‘Who can be more positive than I am? I am your mother/father. Nobody can love you more than I can.’
Handling Setbacks Effectively
How do we learn to stay calm? First of all, we need to understand what exactly does the phrase ‘under pressure’ mean? You go under pressure when you know exactly what your problem is and then you get frustrated.
Sometimes you get frustrated when you fail and you don't achieve your goal. That is when you are justified to be frustrated. You are allowed to be frustrated; however, you must fulfil the requirement of frustration.
There are two types of frustration: original and false. Frustration is justified when you know there is a problem and you have been working on it; nothing seems to work and then you are helpless, clueless and you don't know how to resolve the problem. You have applied all your skills and energies and still, there is no result. This feeling is true frustration. But sometimes, you don't even try [to fix the problem] and you impose frustration on you. That is false frustration! A lot of people fall prey to false frustration.
Some other people who are not connected to God, who are not spiritual, what will they do? They will simply go to the church or temple and say, ‘God help me!’ God will never help them and this will only add to their frustration.
In our case, when we are helpless, we should not be frustrated. When we feel helpless, we always turn to His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi. Some people don’t even try to solve the problem. They skip this stage and go straight to asking for His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi’s help. That is wrong. Don’t do that. Try to fix the problem first with all the skills and energies you have.
His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi’s help will definitely come when you are genuinely helpless.
Why should HDE Gohar Shahi help you when you are able to resolve the problem yourself?
But we have become habitual of doing this. If anything goes wrong, we immediately say, ‘HDE Gohar Shahi, help me; Jesus, help me.’ Jesus will not help you because you are not a genuine seeker. Your quest for help is not genuine.
Only pray to God for help when you cannot help yourself.
In fake frustration, you are never helped out and you lose trust in God. You don’t make an effort and you call upon God to help you. Obviously, God will not help you because your frustration is not genuine. As a result, you become depressed and lose trust in God. This is so dangerous. So make sure your frustration is original frustration.
God helps those who want to help themselves. That will happen when you have tried everything and now you are genuinely helpless; you are lost and do not know what to do. Then comes the Lord’s help. Maybe before you even say, ‘HDE Gohar Shahi, help me,’ HDE Gohar Shahi will help you.
There is no room for frustration in a spiritual person’s life because frustration is a condition where you are helpless and there is nobody to help you.
A disciple of HDE Gohar Shahi and those who are actually connected to Jesus can never be truly frustrated because they are not helpless. So we have to remove this word frustration from our life, practically. There is no room for you to have frustration in your life. You must abide by this. Frustration comes when you become completely helpless and HDE Gohar Shahi is our Lord, we are not unattended for.
This is the answer to handling setbacks effectively. Try your best. God doesn’t like it that there is a problem and you're not making an effort to resolve it. God will never help you like that. Make as much effort as it is required. Even after everything you have done to resolve the problem, there is no result and you are clueless and feel helpless, then call upon HDE Gohar Shahi. I guarantee that you will be helped straight away. When the Lord’s help arrives, there is jubilance, not frustration.
Controlling Emotions and Problem-Solving
There are two skills involved in emotional awareness: the ability to identify your emotions and ability to identify others’ emotions.
When somebody is injured, you bring out a First Aid kit. In a similar way, if somebody is sad and under the outburst of emotions, you should try to comfort him and harness his emotions. Make sure that his emotions do not become overwhelmed. If your emotions become overwhelmed, you will push yourself into the depth of depression. If you are there and you see somebody is under some kind of emotional state, you should have the expertise of controlling and making use of those emotions in solving problems.
If somebody is sad and you also go there and you tell them stories which will increase in their sadness, then this is backfiring. You should comfort them in a way that it appears to be genuine to them. Tell them, ‘Don’t lose hope in God. God will help you. Bad days do not stay forever like good days do not stay forever.’ Give them a practical approach in order to solve their problems. Don’t give them false hope, but at the same time, give them calculated hope.
The same thing goes for yourself. When you are emotionally down, you don't want to talk to people. This is bad because you are shutting the door on any help that might come to you.
Some people seek isolation when they are emotionally down. That is not going to solve the problem. If you have a problem, find a practical solution. You have to make efforts. When some others have a problem, they become hostile to everybody. You must manifest humility and modesty at all times. If you think that you're the only one in the world who has a problem, you are severely mistaken. Every single person in this world is laden with trouble; but the thing is, everybody thinks his pain is greater than everybody else’s.
Do not seek isolation when you are emotionally down. When you seek isolation and you are emotionally down, the chances are that you are pushing yourself into a deep depression. If you are sad, seek a solution. Always leave a door open for someone to come and help you.
Keep your head cool so that you can solve the problem. Don’t become unreasonable. Tell yourself, ‘It is not the end of the world. I will find a solution.’ Sit down and find a practical solution.
If you cannot help yourself, nobody will care about your life. If you don’t want to help yourself, why would the world help you?
When you are helping yourself, then foreign aid will come. However, you should be the first one to help you.
How do you keep cool? If you have a problem, think about how to solve it. Calculate. After your calculations, you know what to do. When you know that something can be achieved, keep cool. You should be worried when you know it cannot be done. There is no problem that cannot be solved!
